Friday, November 5, 2010

Friday Fragments- Searching for the Feel Good

Some weeks are harder than others. Some weeks bring things you didn't expect. I'm mostly an optimist so I'm searching to find the good in the hard and challenging things this week. Tomorrow, I am supposed to go downtown with countless thousands of other crazies and run. Some are doing a marathon, some a half marathon. I'm participating in this event's first 5K. I've been very excited about this event. Until this week. Until this morning, really. See, it is supposed to be about 25 degrees when I wake up in the morning and I don't think it's going to get too much warmer by the 8:20 start time. I've never run in temps colder than 50 degrees. The challenge- figuring out what to wear and staying motivated to go downtown in a giant crowd of people on a freezing cold morning so that I can run 3.1 miles. The feel good- I'm going to do it and then feel awesome about myself afterwards. This week, a prayer was answered but in a rather unexpected way. The challenge- recognizing that the events unfolding weren't something bad or scary. The feel good- realizing that the events were actually answers to prayers that I've been praying for years and seeing that the events that unfolded actually provided a lot of answers. I made a new friend yesterday. He's a blogger and I know some of you already read him- Ian from The Daily Dose of Reality. I've been a lurker on his blog for a while and left a comment yesterday- and he e-mailed back a response lightening fast and we had a nice little back and forth chat for a bit yesterday. He's having a bit of a blogging slump so swing by and leave him some comment love- today's post is on what you wish you knew then that you're glad you know now. No challenge on this one- always a feel good to make a new friend! I've been totally using my kids' Halloween haul to parent my kids. I don't bribe them to do things with it- I use it as a threat if they don't follow family rules. And so far, it's working pretty well. Teagan was whining and having a fit and I told her- "Teagan, you are choosing to not follow family rules about how we act in our family. If you can't pull it together and make good choices, I"m going to have to throw away a piece of your candy." Instant shape up. "Zach get your shoes on. Zach. Stop playing with the puzzle and get your shoes so we can go to school. Zachary. Bring me your shoes to put on or I will throw away a piece of your Halloween chocolate!" Attitude adjusts immediately. I did almost face a misfire the other night. 2 nights ago, I had to go so far as to ask Teagan to take a piece of her candy and throw it away herself because she lied to me about something in order to get her after dinner candy. She was handling it really well until she got to the trash can and then cried while throwing it away. All was fine after that. The next night, Zach wouldn't calm down at bedtime and kept trying to jump on his bed. I gave the candy threat and he replied with "OK! I want to pick it out!" Say huh??? So I go with it... we go pick out the chocolate from the bag and he heads into the kitchen to toss it in the trash. And he mimics his sister from the night before. Gets into the kitchen and starts to cry about throwing it away. I think he just wanted to be like her. The challenge- candy control. The feel good- finding a way to control consumption and behavior at the same time. I had some fun with a pashmina that Christy brought me from her trip to Paris back in September. I wore it yesterday but had a hard time making it work with my outfit- so I posted an album of various styles on my Facebook page. The challenge- taking a pashmina that was a silky material that easily became floofy and adding it to my outfit. The feel good- finding something fun to pass the day and getting advice and making it work! How about you? Did you face any challenges this week? Were you able to find the feel good in them?
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15 comments:

Expats Again said...

Love the behavior modification techniques. I am passing it on to my daughter-in-law!

TheAutisticStepmom said...

I can't answer your question yet. It's a bit harder for me to think about that kinda stuff, but I WILL try it. I like the idea.

Flartus said...

My challenge has been fitting kitty's feeding routine into our busy schedules. The feel-good has been making a stronger connection w/the neighbors helping us out. Also, kitty slept through the night last night for the first time. We're making progress!

Caution Flag said...

I saw your various pashmina poses on FB yesterday. That was a great idea.

Good luck on that run. I've done horribly the last two months with exercise, and when I read your blog/fb posts, they encourage me. Thank-you for that :)

Brandi. said...

LOL! I use my kids Halloween candy against them, too. We are such mean parents, but that only means more for us!

Hope you have a great weekend!

The Girl Next Door Grows Up said...

You are going to ROCk the run tomorrow. 25 is refreshing! 25 is brisk! 25 will inspire you to finish fast so you can get inside :-)

Ian is a good guy.

The Crazy Coxes said...

I love your positive attitide because life is hard and it's all how you deal with it! You're dealin'!

Nothing wrong with a bribe - or in this case, a reverse bribe!

Have a great weekend!

Suldog said...

The feelgood? Sure! I've been posting about Thanksgiving a lot, and I got the rush of having many other people join in with similar posts concerning it. Way cool.

Ian said...

Thanks for the shoutout. I see lots and lots of new faces here. I know Erika though. She and have been reading each other for over a year now.

Y'all come on over to the dark side. I'll leave a light on.

Good luck with your 5k!

blueviolet said...

Why didn't I think to use candy control all those years ago?

dollycas aka Lori said...

It was definitely a week of challenges and am still not done dealing yet today. Check out my post and you'll see the story :)

Dollycas
http://dollycas.blogspot.com/

Shell said...

Good luck with your run tomorrow! :)

I like how you are handling the candy. I never thought about throwing out a piece. They have to be good to get a treat after dinner, but I never thought of reducing their supply! Smart mama!

Amy said...

Loved the pashmina pics. I have one that I love too, but it is hard to find a way to wear it because it can seem kind of bulky.

Mrs4444 said...

Trying to find the feel-good in my challenge of the weekend--I'm SICK!

I love the candy drama-Way too cute :)

Liz, you look gorgeous! Pink is definitely a great color for you :)

Congrats on the running-I'm sure you did great. Off to look for the post on it!

Unknown Mami said...

I did the throwing away thing with some toys and then my daughter started being okay with throwing them away. I had to switch. Our MIL sends her packages all the time and now she's not allowed to open the package if she is misbehaving.