Yesterday, I registered for the 500 Festival Mini Marathon taking place on May 7, 2011. I'm excited and nervous to have made this commitment. I also registered for their training races- a 5K in Feb (3.1 miles), 10K in Mar (6.2 miles), and a 15K in Apr (9.3 miles). The mini is a half marathon (13.1 miles). Christy registered as well. Now we have to each decide how we want to train.
Yesterday was a "hold my breath" day. It was Day Three of the Crackdown Plan for Teagan at school.
Wednesday- Teagan had no TV, no playroom, no stuffed animals, ate dinner in her room with Daddy watching her, no books, no comforter on her bed. She had the opportunity to earn back her favorite stuffed animal by bedtime if she made good choices with the rest of the grounding. And she did fabulous and earned her pig. She also earned a blanket (a ratty old blue blanket and not her nice comforter). She handled it all so well that Jeff and I were concerned she hadn't really learned anything.
Thursday- Bad report again. Not as bad as other days but still a bad report. This time, Jeff and I picked the kids up in separate cars. I told Teagan what she had done and then told her what the consequence was- what she would find when she got home. When I got to the parts where the consequences were harder than Weds, she wasn't happy. No opportunity to earn back the stuffed animal, no Daddy sitting with you while you eat. Then came the kicker. See, Wednesday, we all missed dinner at church and were at home. Thursday night is Music Team practice at church. Teagan used to love going with me but hasn't gone in months (not for a reason, it just hasn't worked out). So the big pain point Thursday was when I told her I was taking Zach out to dinner and then taking him with me to Music Team. That pain was apparently enough for her to realize how serious we were. She cried herself to sleep- with no blanket- by 6:30.
Friday morning, I explained that she had to have a great report because the choices she made during the day would determine how our entire weekend went. I told her that Christy was coming over to babysit Friday night- and would come after Teagan was asleep if we got a bad report. Teagan would have no fun over the weekend- Mommy and Daddy would take turns taking Zach to do fun things and she would have to sit at home with no TV and no playroom.
A sweet moment- we talked about ways that she was special and I expected to hear "I'm smart" or something since she hears that a lot. Instead, she said "God loves me." We then listed off all the people who love her- and it was a long list. On our drive to school, the subject of praying happened to come up and I told Teagan that when I'm having a hard time with something, I stop and take a minute to pray and talk to God about it and I usually feel better. She decided that if she felt inside like she wanted to be mean to someone, she could pray about it. Her teacher (yay for private school) encouraged her in this and even pointed out some places in the room that were quiet where Teagan could go if she wanted to. I don't think Teagan actually used this - but I think God was answering our prayers anyway... Because she had a PERFECT DAY. I mean truly perfect. Her teacher had implemented another positive plan (plans Weds and Thurs didn't work) and Teagan rocked it. She went to the far other side of the behavior spectrum. I called to check in mid-morning and got to talk to her and praise her. Same thing mid-afternoon. And we all went out for ice cream right after school to celebrate! I know this isn't the end of our situation- but at least we got the turn around and know she can control herself and make good choices!!
Jeff and I had a date night last night and it was a well deserved night out. We went to dinner and did a little shopping. I got a new running belt with hydration system (it holds water bottles). I got some new clothes at Christopher & Banks (they had a rack of stuff marked at a $30 price point but everything was actually $7!!) and got some clothes for Christy, too. Jeff got a new book that he didn't know was in paperback already. We held hands and laughed and just relaxed and enjoyed each other's company. It was a lovely evening. And much needed. And celebratory because we both really felt like we had come together in a fantastic and strong way with the challenges this week. I couldn't have done it without him (and he couldn't have done it without me).
When I was taking Christy home last night, we stopped at our favorite local wine bar (Chateau Thomas Winery) for a wine tasting to cap off the night. We know most of the employees there and they know our taste quite well and we hardly even have to select our wines to taste- they know our tastes and will choose for us. So we are chatting with a couple of the employees there and one of them asks, "Did you both do the Monumental 5K last weekend?" Yes, we did. Turns out, she gets the newsletter that FitCity sends out every week and she had read my blog post about the race. She had recognized us from our pictures when she saw the blog post- she knew we were Chateau Thomas regulars. I joked that she was my first official "fan." And she agreed!
I hope you enjoy your Saturday. Thanks to Teagan's great choices on Friday, I know we will have a lot of fun!!