This week is a big week in our household.
My firstborn turns 6. Six! I can't believe it. There are so many thing that I'm not ready for- things others have certainly done ahead of me and I know we will be fine. Things like public school in the fall and things like going to new summer camps and things like losing teeth.
Her Birthday is Wednesday. We have church that evening (dinner for fellowship followed by small group meetings) and Teagan is excited to have her birthday dinner at church. We'll deliver fruit to her classroom on Wednesday- her request in lieu of cupcakes or cookies. She and Christy are planning a special evening out at our local favorite sushi place where Teagan plans to have a Spicy Albacore Tuna roll all to herself. Saturday is a party with some friends from school and Saturday evening will be dinner with family.
We are putting money into treats and the party so she won't have a gift to open from us.
But we are giving her something for her birthday. Something she is very weirdly excited about.
I'm going to be hanging up a board and it will list her chores and she can check off during the week when she's completed a task. I'm thinking she can also do optional bonus stuff- special helper things she does without being asked. Those things will be written down on slips of paper for a special project at church.
Here's where I'm stumped.
What chores do I give her?
I'm thinking, since she wants 6 things to do, that breaking down the clean up of her room and the playroom is best. Something like: BEDROOM 1. Make your bed (daily) 2. Pick up dirty clothes (daily) 3. Put toys and books in playroom (weekly) PLAYROOM 4. Put books on shelf (weekly) 5. Put toys in bins (weekly).
Number 6... I'm torn. All of the other things are really about taking care of her own area, her own things. Should number 6 be something that contributes to the family space more? Maybe helping to clean the shared bathroom?
I don't know what's best here. I don't have firm, clear memories of how my mom handled chores or if getting chores was ever a big deal. But this is something Teagan is really excited about and I don't want her to lose that momentum.
And the second piece is the allowance. My thinking is she gets 6 quarters each week- 1 for completing each chore as requested. I'm also thinking of rules for that money. Like- save 1 quarter for church, 1 quarter for don't touch savings, 1 quarter for spending savings, and 3 quarters to spend or save as she chooses. I've been meaning to do some reading on the best options for teaching money management but I haven't gotten around to it.
I'm asking for advice and tips!! Tell me about your own memories of chores and allowance when you were a kid. Tell me what you've done or plan to do with your kids. Tell me what you think should be completely avoided or what MUST be done!
Bonus video- she asked me to take a video of her riding her bike and here it is!