I have to admit that I've been intrigued by the Duggars before. In all honesty, I don't care how many kids they have. They love all of them and they take care of them. I find it remarkable that they live debt free (although I imagine that to be a lot easier with the TV show paycheck coming in). I've never watched a full episode of their show but have caught pieces here and there when flipping around.
The other day, I caught a few minutes of an episode and it changed my life.
No seriously. Don't laugh!
It was a "question and answer" type of thing and the subject of discipline came up. The dad was talking about how the mom is such a quiet and gentle voiced woman and that the foundation of discipline in the home just doesn't require yelling or lots of anger. He said other stuff to but I was transfixed on the scene of the mom sitting on the bed with a child and saying the words that changed my life.
"The first time I say it, you obey it."
Woah. Wow! I love it!
So I started trying it with my kids. And they took to it crazy fast.
I was in a store with Zach, doing a little Christmas shopping. I was paying at the register and he kept wandering off to look at other items on shelves nearby. I asked him twice to stay by me and he kept walking off anyway, insisting that he wanted to look around on his own. I looked at him with my Mom Eyes and said, "The first time I say it..."
He looked at me and gave a big, disappointed "AW!" and marched over and stayed by my side.
Today, I was asking Teagan to clean up something and she was starting to argue with me about wanting to do something else first. Before I could even say the words, she says, "The first time you say it, I obey it!" and did what I was asking!
They are MAGIC WORDS.