"Love thinks. It's not a mindless feeling that rides on waves of emotion and falls asleep mentally."
I find myself disagreeing with a lot in this reading because it says that men are this way and women are this way... and I always have a hard time with that. In my own marriage, we tend to be the opposite in those roles. More accurately, we both tend to be in the middle of the male/female spectrum. So we each have times when we are more literal and each have times when we want the other to "read between the lines." Today's entry in the book really focuses on the differences between men and women. I'd hoped the book could be more universally applied to intimate relationships, too. And I think it still can. You just have to step outside the box and recognize that it is 2 people who make up a relationship and not focus on the gender of the people in it and not label behaviors based on the gender!
"A husband should listen to his wife and learn to be considerate of her unspoken messages. A wife should learn to communicate truthfully and not say one thing while meaning another."
I think that both of those "shoulds" swing both ways. I need my husband to be open and honest with me, to tell me what he wants and needs. We've certainly had fights where I've told him that I can't read his mind.
Instead, I think the focus for thoughtfulness should be on being open and honest in your communicate while still being positive and kind and patient.
Check in with your spouse at some point with no other purpose than to see how their day is going and see if there is anything you can do for them.
"What did you learn about yourself or your spouse by doing this today? How could this become a more natural, routine, and genuinely helpful part of your lifestyle?"
Have to admit that this is one we already do... we talk to each other a couple of times each day, for no reason other than seeing how the day is going... so no real challenge here today. But good to reflect on why it is important!