Thursday, July 2, 2009
Do You Believe in Miracles?
I've had a couple of miracles happen in my life. Things that have happened to me. Things that I know have no medical or scientific explanation. I won't pretend to know God's plan. I'm not one to follow false hopes. I'm not one to get over excited or dreamy about harsh realities. I'm a realist in many ways. I'm a hopeful realist. I witnessed a miracle this week. I went to the hospital on Tuesday to visit the mom from my online community who is dying of cancer. 7 tumors on her brain, one bleeding. A spot on her lung. Pneumonia. Breast cancer. Cancer in her lymph nodes. Moved from ICU to the oncology unit. To wait for hospice. I saw her and her family right after they had moved her. Her husband had signed, the day before, the Do Not Resuscitate orders. The family was devastated. I held her mother, embraced her husband. Her sister, aunts, dad... so much love surrounding this woman. So many tears... everyone distraught and not knowing what to do. On Tuesday, the medical team spoke to the family. No point in doing radiation as she simply isn't strong enough. We will give her 2 days on this unit and then move her to hospice. It was grim. And there was a lot of prayer. I spoke openly of God and his love and comfort with her husband, her mom, her aunt. I held Michele's hand and told her about the thousands of people who are praying for her and her family and her children. The friends I was there with held her hand and spoke to her about all the efforts being made to care for her family, for her. I went back to the hospital on Wednesday. I met 3 other moms from our online community. I primarily went for one mom who was really struggling with wanting to be there but being afraid. We went upstairs to see the family. They were eating lunch, smiling, talking. Tears today were tears of appreciation for all of the love and support they are receiving from this powerful group of moms, from the various churches involved in their lives. We went to see Michele. She is heavily medicated for pain. But she can get out of bed. She can walk with assistance. She pulled out her catheter and insists on using a toilet chair. She is back on a nutrition program. She makes eye contact with both eyes. The droopiness on one side of her face has alleviated. She recognizes people and speaks to people. She's feisty and has an attitude! From the time she was diagnosed (June 5) until this series of events, she'd had 1 chemo treatment. The tumor under her arm is shrinking. On Tuesday, she was unresponsive. On Tuesday, plans were being made for her to die with dignity and peace. On Wednesday, she was fighting. On Wednesday, plans were being made to start radiation. I find myself thrust into the middle of helping this family. Providing a little comfort and guidance, perhaps, to those who are eager to help. A friend and I are working to organize these hundreds, thousands of moms who want to help. Moms are bringing meals to the hospital for the family. A fund is being set up with a bank and plans are in motion to have a fundraising event in just 2 weeks. Michele is fighting. And she has 35,000 moms behind her. She has 2 churches behind her. For each person praying and helping, they are asking everyone they know to pray as well. There is a powerful network in place. I am watching miracles unfold around me. We don't know what is going to happen next. We don't know how long these improvements will last or what the road ahead holds. Her oldest son turns 10 tomorrow. A church that the family only became involved with in the last 2 weeks- through a friend of a friend- is hosting a birthday bash to celebrate with him. A church that doesn't know this family, this boy. Stepping up. Helping out. Their pastor has been holding vigil at the church many days. Miracles happen all around us. Things that cannot be explained. Things that touch our hearts, inspire us, awe us. What miracles have you experienced? What miracles have opened your mind, touched your heart?