Tuesday, February 10, 2009

Day 12: Love lets the other win

Daily Reading

Bottom line... Sometimes you gotta let the other guy win. Is the argument really worth it? What do you stand to lose by continuing to not budge on a position? Can you give up and let them win this one?

Not budging is compared to driving with the parking brake on. You keep moving but you are dragging and will eventually ruin yourself.

Instead of being stubborn, try to be willing.

It's the idea that it takes two for a fight to continue.

"I'm willing to go your way on this one."

And just because the issue isn't a constant or current argument, doesn't mean it isn't festering and growing. Unresolved arguments are still present.

"Instead of treating your wife or husband like the enemy or someone to be guarded against, start by treating them as your closest, most honored friend."

"Two people who always share the same opinions and perspectives won't have any balance or flavor to enhance the relationship. Rather, your differences are for listening to and learning from."

Only once does the reading mention pride... but I think that the frequent cause of not agreeing and not "letting your spouse win" is pride. At least... maybe that's what it is for me?

Today's Dare

"Demonstrate love by willingly choosing to give in to an area of disagreement between you and your spouse. Tell them you are putting their preference first."


"What issue did you choose? What did giving in cost you? How will this help you in the future?"

Here's the thing... I tried and tried to come up with some issue between us that is a sore point or an unresolved issue. Couldn't think of anything. Really. So I decided I'd ask Jeff. I've asked him to log in and post his thoughts.

1 comment:

The Pink Cowboy said...

We must choose our battles. So many of them need not to be fought (I'll say 99%). I heard this one from someone: Would you rather be right or happy? Good post.